Safe Sex: It’s Not Just About Babies
“Safe sex means making sure you don’t get anyone else’s blood, semen, vaginal fluids, or breast milk in your body — and protecting your partners too!”
Unless you know for certain that your partner is completely std free, you should not be having sex without protection. Even then, using the proper methods of contraception is important to be sure you don’t get pregnant before you’re planning on having kids. Couples who have been together monogamously for a longer period of time may begin to forego items like condoms because they know that they are already STD free and safe together. This kind of confidence requires a committed and trusting relationship. You don’t start out at this stage, it’s something that takes time… as well as std testing.
We’ll talk about a few different methods of Birth Control and STD Prevention here.
Always choose latex condoms. And make sure they are lubricated!
Condoms are ideal for anal or vaginal sex. And when performing oral sex on a partner whom you are not in a committed relationship. Many people forget that oral sex can transfer STD’s the same as intercourse. So always wrap it up. Sucking or fucking, wrap it up! Using lubricated condoms orally is not pleasant though. Non lubricated work in that case. And remember, whenever you use lube with a condom, be sure its actual lube made for sex…. not just some random shit you thought up. No lotion or vaseline! Genuine, water soluble lubricant. KY brand is awesome.
Birth Control Pills and Injections
Pills are most effective when used with a condom. Birth Control Pills don’t prevent STD’s
These are prescribed by a doctor or family planner. You simply take one birth control pill per day, and then either take none or take the special “sugar pills” provided in the packet during your period. These pills are effective at preventing pregnancy but do nothing against STD’s. Be sure not to miss a pill. Set an alarm on your phone for the same time every day and always keep them in your purse- I find that is the best way to remember.
Injections are nearly 100% effective. Administered by a Doctor once every 3 months
Like pills, injections have certain risks you have to weigh before you decide to use them. They increase your chance of liver failure and blood clots, so if you have a history of these, contraceptive pills and injections aren’t a good choice. They have some nasty possible side effects as well, so you really need to read the fine print. Of course, the side effects aren’t guaranteed to happen to you. Most women have little or no issues.
Contraceptive coils (IUDs)
A little plastic device that is placed inside your womb to prevent pregnancy
Again, this is a device which offers prevention of pregnancy only. It holds no power over STD’s. Your doctor will insert it during a simple day surgery like procedure. It can stay in place for a long time so its a great option for women who don’t want to be bothered with more time consuming methods. IUD’s prevent your partner’s sperm from getting through your womb and into your tubes. They are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy.
The “pull and pray” method doesn’t work. Don’t do it.
You have a very good chance of becoming pregnant if you use the old fashioned “quick honey, pull out before you cum!” method. I’m always baffled at how many girls think this really works. This also does ZIP to protect you from STD’s.
And in closing…
There are other options you can discuss with your doctor, but these are the most effective and most used (although IUD’s aren’t as common in the USA we use them all the time in Canada and the UK). Check out this site to learn more detailed information about the Birth Control methods above as well as other options.
Personally, I have had two pregnancies. One was while I was using only Birth Control Pills which I miscarried and then my son was conceived while using just a condom. So you can see these methods aren’t guaranteed on their own. I learned to use both working together. Thankfully I have never contracted an STD, and my fiancee and I are in a monogamous, committed relationship. We no longer use condoms because STD’s are no longer a risk for us and we are at an age and position to happily raise another child if we were to become pregnant.